Dialogue questions

Search 13,000+ Retrouvaille and Marriage Encounter dialogue questions. Filter by category, language, or type. Sort, copy, or print any question for your next letter.

Have a question about how this works? The FAQ covers the most common ones. Once you have chosen a question, use the dialogue writer to draft your letter step by step. If you need help naming what you feel, the feeling words list and feeling descriptions page both help. For definitions of HDIF, WAMF, and the other patterns that appear in many of these questions, see the acronyms glossary. For the full picture of what this practice teaches, see what couples learn.

How to use a dialogue question

1. Pick a question. Look for one that stirs something. Not necessarily a comfortable one. The questions that land are the ones worth writing about.
2. Write privately. Take 10 to 15 minutes. The letter is about your feelings, not what your spouse thinks or what happened. Use "I feel" language throughout.
3. Exchange and read in silence. Read each other's letters without interrupting. Let the words land.
4. Talk about the feelings. After reading, share what moved you. Not to debate or problem-solve. Just to understand each other.